Prayers for Bobby

Posted on July 12, 2011


I watched this movie for the first time a couple months ago, but I re-watched it tonight. It still brought tears to my eyes. It’s a beautiful biographies of two special people- Bobby, a young gay who wanted to be straight for his family, but eventually committed suicide. And Mary Griffith, his non-accepting, religious mother who undergoes an amazing transformation.

It is based on the book “Prayer’s for Bobby: A Mother’s Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son,” by Leroy F. Aarons, which includes excerpts from Bobby’s journal about his journey to accepting his sexuality, and the scars left by his mother’s refusal to accept his feelings.

While the first half of the movie is primarily Bobby’s story, the second half records the transformation of his mother and the begining of her gay activism.

She had a great speech, in front of her city council as they debated allowing a gay pride day. Part of it goes:

“There are children, like Bobby, sitting in your congregations. Unknown to you they will be listening as you echo “amen” and that will soon silence their prayers. Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love but your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay, will silence those prayers. So, before you echo “amen” in your home and place of worship. Think. Think and remember a child is listening.”

I would greatly encourage you to see this movie if you are a parent or friend of an LGBT person, and I would especially suggest that queer Christians checl it out.


Do you have any movie suggestions for me? Gay or otherwise?

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